"Don't it always seem to go...you don't know what you got till it's gone." Joni Mitchell..."Big Yellow Taxi" "Do not dwell on what you have lost. Remember the miracles." Susan H. Porter "...Aren't we all struggling to live with realities we would not choose? Suffering in its simplest form comes in the space between what we thought would be and what is...Life defines us, but suffering redefines us. Ultimately hope refines us, transforming us from within in ways we never could have imagined. "But as we live in the world, as we suffer and grow, we experience things that bump against the boundaries of what has defined us thus far, that chip away at and redefine our borders, and that sometimes shatter the life we've known. The real work, the hardest work, is to pick up the pieces and decide how to put them back together again. The new thing that emerges may not work the way it used to, but ...